Last year's downturn in the economy changed the way we operate in this world. It also changed the characteristics required for those who will survive and thrive in the new economy. In the past, we could go along to get along, now we have to be creative achievers who are willing to think outside the box. We have to be spiritual people and we have to be engaged in whatever we do. This means we must know our passions, our gifts, our talents and the trajectories that will help us do what we love and love what we do. We must be engaged leaders in this new economy!
But how do we become those people? Blythe Taylor Coaching launches its first class of 2010 in January on this subject. "Becoming an Engaged Leader" will meet the first three weeks of every month for approximately one hour in January through April. Each participant will receive a free 30 minute coaching session per month. For more information and to sign up, call Blythe Taylor at 866.877.1158 or email her at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
Donated Coaching Sessions
This just in! Wingate Baptist Church in Wingate, NC has donated enough funds so that five people can have six free coaching sessions through Blythe Taylor Coaching. If you would like to be one of those five, please email Blythe Taylor at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com and she will contact you to schedule your sessions!
Monday, August 10, 2009
Anger as the Pivot Point
Failing (because I'm too much of a perfectionist) . . . needing to be right rather than kind . . . wars that profess our inability to be unified . . . evil, manipulative, dishonest people . . . leaders who fail to stand up for the people that work for them . . . institutions that fail to claim vision . . . discrimination (especially in the church against women and young leaders--isn't that the place everyone is supposed to be accepted?) . . . governments that act in the short term with a total failure to see long-term implications of their decisions . . . ugh, I can feel the blood getting warm . . . these are just some of the things that create anger in me.
We've addressed so many levels of forceful human living . . . (shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear and desire.) With each one we have see how the next level builds on the one previously mentioned. Anger is no different. I think of a small child that desires to have a toy and can't communicate to the parent what he/she wants. The result is total frustration and often a complete meltdown. That's what anger in its negative form is . . . a meltdown.
David Hawkins defines it as "frustrated want." We all have a vision of how our lives should be or how we believe something should work. I would contend that what exists behind a frustrated want is the belief that we are right and everyone else is wrong thus we fuel our perspective or desire and thus we fuel our anger.
Anger can lead to all kinds of reactions--from hatred to any kind of raging expression. It can also have a positive effect. It can be a motivating factor that leads people to do something about oppressive situations (leave the work environment dominated by the dishonest manipulator, run for office to change the function of the government, become introspective so as to unpack one's failures, become a leader with vision and therefore change a lagging institution.)
With all of the things that make me angry, I have one choice to make. Will I choose to be constructive or destructive? Sometimes our anger motivates us to react quickly and poorly. And sometimes, if we can muster the ability to think before we act or speak, we can make slow and steady choices that serve to positively alter not only the trajectories of our lives but of those around us too.
In basketball, the player with the ball has a pivot foot. One foot must remain in place while the other can move around if the player is standing in one place with the ball in hand. This gives the player the time and safety to decide the best path to make the goal. We can liken anger to that pivot foot. It is that pivotal point between moving forward toward greatness or finding a life of frustrated want.
Where anger is concerned there is always a choice for us to make. I hope for us all the ability to sit with anger and then move forward successfully and transformatively toward our goals.
We've addressed so many levels of forceful human living . . . (shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear and desire.) With each one we have see how the next level builds on the one previously mentioned. Anger is no different. I think of a small child that desires to have a toy and can't communicate to the parent what he/she wants. The result is total frustration and often a complete meltdown. That's what anger in its negative form is . . . a meltdown.
David Hawkins defines it as "frustrated want." We all have a vision of how our lives should be or how we believe something should work. I would contend that what exists behind a frustrated want is the belief that we are right and everyone else is wrong thus we fuel our perspective or desire and thus we fuel our anger.
Anger can lead to all kinds of reactions--from hatred to any kind of raging expression. It can also have a positive effect. It can be a motivating factor that leads people to do something about oppressive situations (leave the work environment dominated by the dishonest manipulator, run for office to change the function of the government, become introspective so as to unpack one's failures, become a leader with vision and therefore change a lagging institution.)
With all of the things that make me angry, I have one choice to make. Will I choose to be constructive or destructive? Sometimes our anger motivates us to react quickly and poorly. And sometimes, if we can muster the ability to think before we act or speak, we can make slow and steady choices that serve to positively alter not only the trajectories of our lives but of those around us too.
In basketball, the player with the ball has a pivot foot. One foot must remain in place while the other can move around if the player is standing in one place with the ball in hand. This gives the player the time and safety to decide the best path to make the goal. We can liken anger to that pivot foot. It is that pivotal point between moving forward toward greatness or finding a life of frustrated want.
Where anger is concerned there is always a choice for us to make. I hope for us all the ability to sit with anger and then move forward successfully and transformatively toward our goals.
Friday, July 31, 2009
$10 Coaching!
I found myself at the veterinary office this week talking with the receptionist about my coaching. She said that she needed some and when I told her about what seemed to be a great idea from my view, she said that she couldn't bring herself to do it. I'm referring to that Name Your Price gimmick that I offered last week. When I put myself in her shoes, I realized that I couldn't do it either.
I find myself anxious to log these hours toward my Associate Certified Coach designation with the International Coach Federation, so with 55 hours left to allot, I've decided to take a new tactic. Here's the new package:
Three month agreement with two hour long conversations each month via phone for $60. That's six sessions for $10 each with the agreement that you allow me to list you as a contact for logging my hours. (Hours must be logged between August and October.)
If you are interested or can pass the offer onto someone that might be, email me at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com! The offer is good only as long as the 55 hours are outstanding!
I find myself anxious to log these hours toward my Associate Certified Coach designation with the International Coach Federation, so with 55 hours left to allot, I've decided to take a new tactic. Here's the new package:
Three month agreement with two hour long conversations each month via phone for $60. That's six sessions for $10 each with the agreement that you allow me to list you as a contact for logging my hours. (Hours must be logged between August and October.)
If you are interested or can pass the offer onto someone that might be, email me at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com! The offer is good only as long as the 55 hours are outstanding!
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Name Your Price
Because Blythe is needing to log hours toward her Associate Certified Coach designation through the International Coach Federation, she is offering as special opportunity to receive one hour of coaching for whatever price you want to offer her. This special rate lasts only as long as there are hours to be logged so shoot her an email at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com if you are interested!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Preaching Event
Blythe Taylor will be preaching at St. Andrew's Episcopal Church in Rocky Mount on Sunday, October 4th and invites you join us for worship that day if you are in the Rocky Mount area! Hope to see you there!
Monday, June 15, 2009
Women's Retreat
Thomas Wolfe was the one who said that you can't go home again, right? On the contrary, October 3, 2009, Blythe will be leading a women's retreat on the topic of spiritual gifts at St. Andrews Episcopal Church in Rocky Mount, North Carolina (Blythe's hometown!) If you are or know a woman that might benefit from this day long retreat, feel free to contact Blythe and she can help get you connected for the event. Contact her at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com.
Monday, June 8, 2009
Welcome
Welcome to the Blythe Taylor Coaching Events page. We hope that you will come here often to see what we are offering in the weeks and months ahead. We have several things in the works but until we have signed on the dotted line, as they say, with our partners, we can't yet post the dates. This page will be dedicated to alerting you to our retreat and seminar offerings in your area. So stay on the alert for great opportunities coming your way!
If you would like to be a weekly recipient of information from Blythe Taylor Coaching, please email us at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com or just check out our website and other blog from time to time at: www.blythetaylorcoaching.com or www.marybsmusings.blogspot.com
If you would like to be a weekly recipient of information from Blythe Taylor Coaching, please email us at blythe@blythetaylorcoaching.com or just check out our website and other blog from time to time at: www.blythetaylorcoaching.com or www.marybsmusings.blogspot.com
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